Saturday, February 7, 2009

Obedience, part 2

In my first post, I discussed how it is critically important to obey your parents in all things. But does that mean you have no say in anything that pertains to your life? That you have to obey even though you are convinced you have a better alternative?

An appeal is where you approach your parents, suggesting something because perhaps you don’t agree with what they are asking you to do. This is appropriate only if you do it respectfully. Demanding anything from your parents or arguing with them is not what God desires.
For instance, if your parents wanted to go somewhere or do something, but you thought you had a better idea, you could approach them and say, “Dad and mom, may I make an appeal?” Instead of saying, “But I have a better idea!” or “That won’t work! This is better”, asking to make an appeal is a respectful way of giving your input to your authority. However, once you give them your suggestion, you still need to submit to their final decision. If it’s not what you suggested, you need to be content with whatever they choose. On Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin say:
“Don’t panic if your father makes a decision you don’t agree with. Have faith in God’s ability to lead through your father, imperfect though he is, knowing that God will bless your obedience.”
They also encourage whole-hearted obedience in their book, So Much More, by stating:
“Obedience is more than outwardly obeying with a resentful, grudging attitude. Obedience means inwardly obeying, from the heart, with eagerness and cheerfulness. True obedience means obeying even when it’s hard. But obedience doesn’t have to be painful. When we have a deep, abiding inner reverence for our parents and their wishes, it can become a joy to obey them with our whole hearts.”

Proverbs 20:20 reveals that
“If a man curses his father or mother, his lamp will be snuffed out in pitch darkness.” Anna Sofia and Elizabeth address this verse by articulating:
“When we reject [our parents’] opinions, their restrictions and their punishments, that lamp, that blessing that God gives us to guide us, is snuffed out, leaving us blind and unable to see that we are stumbling around, making a mess of our lives.”

Lies Young Women Believe, by Nancy DeMoss and Dannah Gresh, encourages that
“Submission places you under God's protection. Rebellion opens you up to the influence of Satan in ways you may not even realize. When we place ourselves under the spiritual covering of the authorities God has placed in our lives, God protects us. On the other hand, when we insist on having it our way and are stepping out from under that protection we become vulnerable and give the Enemy a new opportunity to attack us.”

“My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching.”
~Proverbs 6:20

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