Tuesday, September 8, 2009

How to Foster Unity Among Your Siblings

“How good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell together in unity”!
Psalm 133:1

Becoming best friends with your siblings isn’t something that comes naturally, or at least for some of us! :) So how can you foster unity and friendship among your siblings?

Spend time with them. If you’re never with them, how can you expect to become best friends with them?
Talk to them. Communication is the key to developing relationships. :)
Ask questions. Find out what their favorite food is, know their likes and dislikes, ask how you can pray for them, ask how God is working in their life.
Listen to them. If you’re reading a book, typing on your computer or half-listening, your siblings will get the picture that something else is more important to you than they are.
Take interest. Demonstrate to your siblings that you care for them. Whether that’s listening to them tell something they think is important, describe their day or something they learned, or playing something they think is fun, show your interest in everything that happens to them.
Pray for them.
Pray with them.
Get to know them (really!). This sounds so silly, but do you really know your siblings? This is what flows from conversations and being with them.
Show love to them. Remember, true, biblical love is a choice, not a feeling. You may not “feel” like loving your siblings every moment of every day, but God commands to you love. By choosing to love our siblings even when we don’t feel like it, we are developing the godly character God desires for us, and the feelings will eventually follow!

I am no way perfect in any of these areas; in fact, as God began to reveal them to me I realize I fall short in many ways!

One last thought. Satan wants to destroy the family, so when you harbor bitterness, anger or just don’t enjoy being with your siblings, you are helping Satan advance his plan! He understands that a godly family is capable of so much in the kingdom of God, so his desire is to see it destroyed! Don’t join the enemy forces, study God’s Word and learn how to kindly relate and develop loving relationships with your siblings. You will be blessed!


Michelle said...

Great post Allison!

Those are some wonderful tips and advice on how to treat your siblings. I need to work better on all the things you mentionend, but especially on communicating and giving my younger sister more attention.
I've found though, that going on a "sister date" is a great way to talk and get to know your siblings better. If you can drive, try taking a sibling out for coffee (or a desert place!), shopping, or whatever your sister or brother likes to do. It's amazing how much they'll open up to you.

If you can't drive, you could set up something special at home like a tea party just with you and your sister (or if you have a brother, do whatever would be the equivalent to a tea party.) :)

Anyway, those are just some extra ideas that I've found really work to get to know your siblings better. :)

Love in Christ,

Maggie said...

Great post!

Noelle said...

Wonderful thoughts, Allison! Thank you for sharing your heart.

Kristen said...

Thanks for posting this. I have recently been challenged to work more on cultivating a heart of love and interest in my younger siblings especially. I think I tend to get so absorbed in myself that I forget the importance of spending time with them and "getting to know them" and encouraging them as you said. Yes, our siblings should be our best friends, especially as they will be the ones we are with for our whole lives! Thanks for the inspiration and for making me think more about the importance of this.

Anonymous said...

Great post! I admit that I could do better at that sometimes.