Thursday, October 15, 2009

Forming Friendships

Becoming close friends with people should be a slow process. Not because the people you’re around are necessarily bad or unworthy of your friendship, but because friendships need to be built on Christ.

Prov. 22:24-25 reminds us: “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.” The wisdom found here is that being around someone who character is ungodly can result in negative parallels in your own life. Hastily rushing into a close friendship can also easily end up as a broken friendship later on. Usually instantaneous close friendships are built on the current similar interests that don’t always last because of change of interests, instead of being built on Christ, the only strong foundation.

The people you want to be close friends with are those who not only share similar convictions, but can fulfill some of the ideas I shared in the purpose of friendships.

Henry Blackaby says:
“Be careful in your choice of friends! Jesus chose His closest friends wisely. He did not look for perfect friends, but friends whose hearts were set to follow God. It is equally important to examine the kind of friend you are to others. As a friend, it is your duty to put the needs of others first (Prov. 17:17). Strive to find godly friends who will challenge you to become the person God desires. When you have found them, be receptive to the way God uses them to help you become spiritually mature. Strive also to be the kind of friend that helps others become more like Christ.
Also, don’t limit your friendships to people your age. You can learn and glean so much from those older than you, and you can use friendships with those younger than you to practice things like encouraging, inspiring and ministering!


Maiden of Purity said...

Hello! Wonderful post! I have actually learned this over the past few years, and put it to action a few weeks ago. I met a new girl, which seemed to be very kind and someone who I could spend my time with. Nevertheless, as the weeks go by I see the other side and am glad that I'm slow to this friendship. Just like you and I, we developed a friendship in about one year, getting to know each other! I have really seen this become true and with my friendship with people like you, Leah, and Erica, it is worth it, because we are encouraging each other in Christ-like motives! Lovely post Allison, and I love the quote by Henry Blackaby!

Love Nessa

Rachel Sokolik said...

I love the quote by Henry Blackaby! He's one of my favorite writers. ☺ This is a very needful topic to write on- thanks for the encouragement! God bless♥