There are however some things that are not flexible, things that you need to know now that you need in a future husband.
These are indisputable things like:
-He must be a true believer in Christ Jesus, and be committed to serving Him in any way He calls
-He must have a dynamic relationship with Christ Jesus, evidenced by his prayer life and service to others
-He must be a man of integrity
-He must look to God for wisdom, and be quick to turn to the Word of God for answers
-He must treat his mother, sister(s), and other ladies around him with respect and honor
And for me, it also includes things like:
-He must be reformed in his theology
-He must see ministry as part of life (whether that’s full-time ministry or not)
-He must respect and honor his authority, even if he disagrees with them
Additionally, I do have preferences that I would appreciate in a husband. But while I have things I would prefer to have in a husband, I try to be careful not to focus on those things, because God may give me someone completely opposite of what I desire in order to build character in me, and if I determine I must have a certain kind of husband now, I will set myself up for disappointment later.
Above all, I desire to marry a man who loves the Lord with all his heart, soul and mind, whose life is completely devoted to God, and who is passionate about sharing the marvelous truth of salvation. Because those are the most important things. In a godly marriage, two people come together to serve God in a greater way together than they can alone. A godly marriage displays the beauty of the gospel (Eph. 5:31-32). Marriage is not merely for romance and to meet your desired needs. It is for the glory of God! Our lives are to be lived to the fullest for God's glory, whether that's in marriage or singleness. He then determines where you would best serve and glorify Him, and we can then joyfully submit to knowing that God's way is perfect and good.