Wednesday, March 13, 2013

How are you using your singleness?

Our church's Sunday sermon on not storing up treasures on earth, along with the series I'm listening to by Nancy DeMoss, and this post on Desiring God have culminated in reminding me of how I need to invest my time in things that will reap eternal fruit. 
"A season of singleness is not merely the minor leagues of marriage. It has the potential to be a unique period of undivided devotion to Christ and undistracted ministry to others....With God’s help and leading, you have the freedom to invest yourself, your time, your resources, your youth, and your flexibility in relationships, ministries, and causes that can bear unbelievable fruit."

"One of your greatest spiritual gifts as a single person is your “Yes.” Yes to a random phone conversation. Yes to coffee. Yes to help with the move. Yes to stepping in when someone’s sick. Yes to a late-night movie or the special event downtown. You have the unbelievable freedom to say yes when married people can’t even ask the question... Be willing to say Yes! and bless others, even when you don’t always feel like it." (emphasis mine)
Marshall Segal, Desiring God
Single, Satisfied, and Sent: Mission for the Not-Yet Married

I don't often consider how much freedom and flexibility I have right now because of the season of life I'm in. And that precious time does not need to be squandered. A few questions for you and me...
How are you utilizing your singleness for the glory of God?
Are you investing your time wisely?
Are you running hard after God?
Are you cultivating a relationship with the Lover of your soul?
Are you giving sacrificially of your time and resources to those around you?

If you are single, you have much freedom in how to use your time. You have freedom to do what you want to do. But instead of being self-focused, we need to be others-focused and remember that this season, however long, needs to be a time of investing, giving and sacrificing, not taking and wasting.



Vicki said...

What an amazing post - convicting, yes, but also very empowering! It's easy to get down on myself because I can't seem to attract a suitable husband ... but that's not the way to look at things at all! Thank you so much for the timely reminder!!

Love in Christ,

Allison said...

Vicki, I appreciate your comment! Yes, continue to remind yourself that God has orchestrated things in your life in order that you can best glorify Him. If He is using this season of singleness to help you cultivate that relationship with Him, to rely more deeply upon Him, to seek Him with your whole heart, and to serve and bless others, then it is all worth it! He working in and through you for your good! You can trust wholeheartedly that He will bring the right guy along in His perfect timing, should that best glorify Him. And we know that He delights to give good gifts to His children (Mt. 7:11), so keep praying and seeking the Lord! The Lord will bless you as you pursue Him.